There is a 21-year-old young man in the Dominican Republic who grew up not knowing his father. One day he met his dad who told him he was a mistake. As you can imagine, the son was devastated. However, not long afterward, the son received a letter from a stranger reminding him of his value. The young man later contacted his father and told him that he was not a mistake and even if he was, he’s the best mistake his father ever made.
Words carry weight. How do you see yourself? Do you know and believe that you are valuable beyond measure and no one changes that fact? It’s true and not only should you celebrate your value but you should help others see their own. Why did the father say such a jarringly hurtful thing? How does he view himself? To be fair, many fathers today – like my dad – are caring, men of honor who are excellent examples of fatherhood. Nonetheless, the young man in DR could just as well have been in India, The Bahamas, Europe, the United States, the Middle East, Africa or somewhere else in the world. Location doesn’t matter. Matters of the heart and mind do. Stand tall, believe in yourself, and be the light in someone else’s life. #myheartmatters, #knowyourvalue, #sonoftheKing, #kirkjohnsonworldwide
Where there is life, there are relationships ~ Kirk Johnson
Do you remember the last time someone said or did something that made you feel good about yourself? Perhaps it was a compliment from a love one or a coworker genuinely congratulating you for a job well done. The point is, we tend to remember the feeling even if the details fade from memory. Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Whether you are on the job, in the community or at home, you are a person of influence. Make someone “feel” good today! It may only take a genuine smile. #mattersoftheheart, #youmatter, #thingsthatmatter, #kirkjohnsonworldwide
In August 2013, I shared a post titled “Fear Not.” I was then in Florida reflecting on a fairly tough time in my life. In that post, I promised I would in time share some good news with you. Since then, against significant financial odds I was accepted to graduate school and I am now just a few months away from graduating with honors. Also since that date, I married Charlene, my compliment, best friend and the woman I love dearly. Plus, my first book will be published by the summer.
Despite the unbelievably devastating loss of my mentor and friend Dr. Myles Munroe, I reflect on the telephone conversation we had three days before the plane crash that killed him, his wife Pastor Ruth and seven others. It was November 6, 2014 and Pastor Munroe and I were confirming arrangements for him to talk to students in the leadership perspectives class I taught at my university. He died before it could happen but during that conversation he had said something remarkable I will never forget. He told me he was proud of me and had recently reviewed a copy of my life’s vision and mission statement I gave him more than five years prior. He told me I was on track and encouraged me to continue my work.
In similar form, I encourage you to have a personal vision and mission statement for your life and then to pursue it with vigor. Now is the time. Your moments are here. Let not life triumphs and/or tribulations distract you. Miracles may take many forms and may be as “simple” as the change of ones heart from apathy and unforgivenness to altruism and compassion. What you do matters!
It has been a really long time since I last wrote and I have about a million great excuses for you. Reasons like, “I’ve been super busy” and “There’s been a lot going on.” Truth is, I felt like I didn’t have the ‘right’ words to say. I waited for and even anticipated the perfect juxtaposition of words. I was sure that once inspired, my words would flow like tapestry on virtual paper. It simply did not happen. But eventually something clicked.
Finding the right time and the right words have a lot to do with what we value. It isn’t that we do not have demanding schedules or that we don’t have to choose among choices. Fact is, that’s life. Life requires us to make choices among competing options. It expects us to prioritize the more important things and very importantly, to balance and harmonize them. Otherwise, we risk not getting things done or getting many things done but in the wrong direction.
“Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing that it is not fish they are after,” Henry David Thoreau. We can spend a lot of time and effort on a good thing, a great project, even a worthy goal. But is it consistent with the direction your life should move towards? Where are you investing your life? Are you making the time for what and who really matters? Had I continued to wait for the perfect words, I could not share this blog with you. Life is a mix of relationships and decisions.
Check your life’s compass to make sure you are on course. You’ve got what it takes and What You Do Matters!
Today, my fiance unexpectedly had to travel to an island in The Bahamas. We had plans for our date night but an emergency came up that needed her immediate attention. I took her to the airport and even waited for a while after she checked in. However, our time together was a little strained. Honestly, my logic fully understood her having to go but my feelings weren’t so cooperative. It was our date night and after two very busy weeks for us, I was looking forward to us sharing some quality time.
Nonetheless, she was about to leave for her trip and my attitude could’ve been better. She even gave me a kiss on the cheek as we waited. We hugged and said our goodbyes just before she left the main terminal but I was still withdrawn. As she turned to leave, I was already missing her and knew that my pride had gotten in the way of making the most of our time together.
Life comes with twists and turns, pleasant surprises and disappointments BUT we must DECIDE to make the most of every moment. What’s more, we must talk about what’s going on inside. It can help to relieve a tense situation. It’s said that attitude determines altitude and today my attitude sucked. Still, I can’t turn back the hands of time. It’s a lesson I won’t repeat. The mind is a terrible thing to waste and so is time spent on negative feelings (smile). There are some things we can change and others not so much. I can’t change what I should have done but I’m going to apologize, work to better communicate and to look for the good in a “bad” situation. What you do Matters.