Have you experienced a hurricane or tornado? I have. In fact, several. The threat of a hurricane or cyclone strike is as much a way of life for those of us in Florida, China and the Caribbean as the threat of twisters in Kansas, Texas or Oklahoma. What’s more, social media and news stories share the experience with the world.
Right now I’m having to stay inside as Hurricane Sandy leaves her footprints throughout my community. Gale force winds rush through every opening it can find and the trees outside move like a disorganized Olympic rowing team. While most of us know of the destructive power of a storm, earthquake or tsunami, we may not as quickly consider the “little” things we do or say that may damage or potentially destroy our lives or someone else’s.
Poor eating habits, consuming or abusing substances (not all of which are illegal), conversations and associations that undermine good character and integrity, thoughts that move our minds to self-defeating attitudes, condescending remarks to others (even those we say we love), viewing and reading material that blur the line between right and wrong and the list goes on. A few days go, a mechanic told me that a car is like a human being. What you put in (fuel, oil etc) is what comes out (performance and reliability). Invest your time, talents and resources in building the best you and those around you. What you do matters.
Over the weekend I met Ashley and Casey, a lovely couple from Iowa. They were in town for their wedding and brought about 20 cheerleaders. They were actually family members but how was I to know the difference? You should have been there. They were all very friendly and obviously excited. Like a skilled photographer, I saw their first dance, cutting of their wedding cake and the throwing of the bouquet under a cabana on a beautiful beach resort just yards from the crystal clear waters of the Atlantic in The Bahamas. Anyone who enjoys a sappy love story would have thoroughly enjoyed being there.
What about You? What makes you happy? Is it attending or participating in a wedding, traveling, your career, community work, your spiritual life, family time, your beau, your baby or your personal time? Whatever it is, make time for your happy place. What you do Matters.
Today, my fiance unexpectedly had to travel to an island in The Bahamas. We had plans for our date night but an emergency came up that needed her immediate attention. I took her to the airport and even waited for a while after she checked in. However, our time together was a little strained. Honestly, my logic fully understood her having to go but my feelings weren’t so cooperative. It was our date night and after two very busy weeks for us, I was looking forward to us sharing some quality time.
Nonetheless, she was about to leave for her trip and my attitude could’ve been better. She even gave me a kiss on the cheek as we waited. We hugged and said our goodbyes just before she left the main terminal but I was still withdrawn. As she turned to leave, I was already missing her and knew that my pride had gotten in the way of making the most of our time together.
Life comes with twists and turns, pleasant surprises and disappointments BUT we must DECIDE to make the most of every moment. What’s more, we must talk about what’s going on inside. It can help to relieve a tense situation. It’s said that attitude determines altitude and today my attitude sucked. Still, I can’t turn back the hands of time. It’s a lesson I won’t repeat. The mind is a terrible thing to waste and so is time spent on negative feelings (smile). There are some things we can change and others not so much. I can’t change what I should have done but I’m going to apologize, work to better communicate and to look for the good in a “bad” situation. What you do Matters.