The BEST MISTAKE

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There is a 21-year-old young man in the Dominican Republic who grew up not knowing his father. One day he met his dad who told him he was a mistake. As you can imagine, the son was devastated. However, not long afterward, the son received a letter from a stranger reminding him of his value. The young man later contacted his father and told him that he was not a mistake and even if he was, he’s the best mistake his father ever made.

Words carry weight. How do you see yourself? Do you know and believe that you are valuable beyond measure and no one changes that fact? It’s true and not only should you celebrate your value but you should help others see their own. Why did the father say such a jarringly hurtful thing? How does he view himself? To be fair, many fathers today – like my dad – are caring, men of honor who are excellent examples of fatherhood. Nonetheless, the young man in DR could just as well have been in India, The Bahamas, Europe, the United States, the Middle East, Africa or somewhere else in the world. Location doesn’t matter. Matters of the heart and mind do. Stand tall, believe in yourself, and be the light in someone else’s life. #myheartmatters#knowyourvalue#sonoftheKing, #kirkjohnsonworldwide

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You Are Powerful

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Where there is life, there are relationships ~ Kirk Johnson 

Do you remember the last time someone said or did something that made you feel good about yourself? Perhaps it was a compliment from a love one or a coworker genuinely congratulating you for a job well done. The point is, we tend to remember the feeling even if the details fade from memory. Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” Whether you are on the job, in the community or at home, you are a person of influence. Make someone “feel” good today! It may only take a genuine smile. ‪#‎mattersoftheheart‬, ‪#‎youmatter‬, ‪#‎thingsthatmatter‬, #‎kirkjohnsonworldwide‬

Tap In or Tap Out

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Kirk and Charlene Johnson, Ruth and Dr. Myles Munroe

More than three years ago, I asked my mentor, bestselling author and well-known public speaker Dr. Myles Munroe to forward the book I was writing.  I had the title and the first chapter completed.   After discussing the name and content, he said he was willing.  As you may imagine, I was honored and thrilled. Unfortunately, my enthusiasm did not translate to productivity.  I procrastinated and just over a year ago, he passed away in a tragic plane crash. 

What’s the moral of the story?  Within you is untapped potential.  However, it is of little value if it remains dormant. As such, studying arduously for a final or certification exam is effort wasted if you don’t show up for the test. Being gifted as a singer, leader, writer or some other discipline is for not if we make excuses about why we don’t have the time, talent or resources to follow through.

I cannot change the past, but surely I can do something about the present.  So can you. My book will be released in early 2016 and my encouragement to you is simple. “Your future is depending on you. Tap in to your potential so you won’t have to tap out by default.” ~ Kirk Johnson #thingsthatmatter

Miracle are Made of Moments Like These….

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Miracles are Made of Moments Like These…

In August 2013, I shared a post titled “Fear Not.” I was then in Florida reflecting on a fairly tough time in my life.  In that post, I promised I would in time share some good news with you. Since then, against significant financial odds I was accepted to graduate school and I am now just a few months away from graduating with honors.  Also since that date, I married Charlene, my compliment, best friend and the woman I love dearly.  Plus, my first book will be published by the summer.

Despite the unbelievably devastating loss of my mentor and friend Dr. Myles Munroe, I reflect on the telephone conversation we had three days before the plane crash that killed him, his wife Pastor Ruth and seven others.  It was November 6, 2014 and Pastor Munroe and I were confirming arrangements for him to talk to students in the leadership perspectives class I taught at my university.  He died before it could happen but during that conversation he had said something remarkable I will never forget.  He told me he was proud of me and had recently reviewed a copy of my life’s vision and mission statement I gave him more than five years prior.  He told me I was on track and encouraged me to continue my work.

In similar form, I encourage you to have a personal vision and mission statement for your life and then to pursue it with vigor.   Now is the time.  Your moments are here. Let not life triumphs and/or tribulations distract you.  Miracles may take many forms and may be as “simple” as the change of ones heart from apathy and unforgivenness to altruism and compassion.  What you do matters!

Finding the Right Words to Say

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The ‘Right’ Words to Say

It has been a really long time since I last wrote and I have about a million great excuses for you. Reasons like, “I’ve been super busy”  and “There’s been a lot going on.”  Truth is, I felt like I didn’t have the ‘right’ words to say.  I waited for and even anticipated the perfect juxtaposition of words.  I was sure that once inspired, my words would flow like tapestry on virtual paper.  It simply did not happen. But eventually something clicked.

Finding the right time and the right words have a lot to do with what we value.  It isn’t that we do not have demanding schedules or that we don’t have to choose among choices.  Fact is, that’s life.  Life requires us to make choices among competing options.  It expects us to prioritize the more important things and very importantly, to balance and harmonize them. Otherwise, we risk not getting things done or getting many things done but in the wrong direction.

“Many men go fishing all of their lives without knowing that it is not fish they  are after,” Henry David Thoreau.  We can spend a lot of time and effort on a good thing, a great project, even a worthy goal.  But is it consistent with the direction your life should move towards?  Where are you investing your life? Are you making the time for what and who really matters?  Had I continued to wait for the perfect words, I could not share this blog with you.  Life is a mix of relationships and decisions.

Check your life’s compass to make sure you are on course.  You’ve got what it takes and What You Do Matters!

Fear Not

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I am on my knees in a Florida hotel room with tears running down my face.  Honestly, I would much rather keep this to myself but I know someone needs to read this.  I feel a little overwhelmed but not with sadness.  Rather, it’s a sobering awareness of GOD’s mindfulness towards me.

The past year and a half was tougher than I have admitted to anyone.  Frankly, there was only so much I could explain with words.  You may know like I do, what it’s like to have limited cash with barely enough money to buy gas for your car and then to lose that car.  You may have an idea of what it is like to face a crisis and feel like you’re quickly running out of options in a world where people are often measured by the contents of their pockets instead of the content of their character.

Although most persons in Orlando are vacationing,  I am not. I’m here on a very important mission that I will tell you more about in future blogs.  Right now, I’m reflecting on today’s devotions.  The words got pass my ears and have reached my soul. My spirit marvels at GOD’s love. “Fear not,” it reads, “for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.’

For anyone who has a dream and you are wondering how you will beat the odds, I am talking to you. For that person who is at odds with a spouse, friend, coworker, business partner or family member and wants to find peace and resolve, I am talking to you.  To that teenager or adult who wants to better understand him or herself or forgive herself, I’m talking to you.  To that educator, construction engineer, student, CEO, administrator, carpenter, doctor, and unnamed persons who want to fully understand and complete their life’s purpose, I am talking to you.  For that person who wants to be loved, valued and respected, I AM TALKING TO YOU.

I’m not trying to give you a panacea like the one found in the “Alice in Wonderland” fairy tale. In most circumstances, clicking your heels will not make things better.  Rather, I am talking about forming a foundation of faith that you build on with your actions.  I can only share my personal story and the rewards of my relationship with CHRIST.  I’m not perfect but HE is.

We all have our own minds and hearts and I respect yours even if we don’t share the same convictions.  My heart is not to offend but to remind you that you are valuable, you are worth it. You can push beyond your ‘pause.’ Face your disappointments, even your fear of failure.  “The fears we don’t face become our limits”, says Robin Sharma. If you can’t fly, run; if you can’t run, walk; if you can’t walk, crawl but by all means keep moving,” Dr. Martin Luther king Jr.

What you do matters. ~ Kirk Johnson

The First Duty of Love

Couple“The first duty of love is to listen.”  Wow, that quote by Paul Tillich held my attention from the moment I read it.   Then the slight twinge of guilt followed as I evaluated myself.  “How good of a listener am I?”  The last two years in my new business have been fast paced and extremely demanding – physically, emotionally and financially.  It seemed as if I didn’t have enough time to really listen to me much less anyone else.  But, how does that affect the people who matter to me?  I think of my fiancé, my family, my team, my close friends and most importantly, GOD.  How well am I listening?

As a relationship coach and talk show host, I’ve had the privilege to invest hours listening to persons share their thoughts and concerns.  Yet, I hold myself in contempt when it comes to how well I have listened otherwise.

For example, I love my ‘special lady’ and my folks and make it a point to tell them.  Yet, as I look more closely at my level of listening, I become more self-critical.  I’m not saying that I don’t listen but rather that good isn’t good enough when you can do better.  In the words of former British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, “Sometimes doing your best is not good enough. Sometimes you must do what is required.”

So I challenge you as I commit to being an effective listener.  More so, an ‘active listener.’   Starting with my spiritual life.  My level of listening impacts the quality of my life and relationships.  By the way, your level affects yours too.  Active listening can be compared to the way the pores of our skin opens in response to hot water vapour.   It expands our awareness as it benefits both the sender and receiver.  Relationship experts Linda & Charlie Bloom says ‘The Three Magic Words in Relationships‘ are ‘communication, communication, communication.’  They say that in good communication, speaking is only half of the equation.  The other is listening.

With active listening by all involved, relationships become stronger as friends and love ones see life through each other’s eyes.  Stress levels lower.  Arguments and misunderstandings are avoided or amicably resolved.  Conversely, failing to actively listen can corrupt even the most promising relationship.

What is active listening?  Essentially, it is the act of making someone else the priority by focusing your attention on understanding and validating their message,  even if their view differs from yours.   In his article ‘Become a Better Listener,’ psychologist, Dr. John M. Grohol says active listening is all about building rapport, understanding, and trust.

Hence, I will hold my tongue and open my ears to honour my special lady.  To be her safe harbor where she can freely express her thoughts, hopes and dreams.  I will set aside distractions and decidedly listen to my love ones and to my inner voice.  I will make it a part of my daily life to listen to GOD as he speaks to my heart.  Ours is a commitment to actively listening to each other.   Are you already committed to the same?

What you do Matters.  ~ Kirk Johnson